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Wow.

Love love love your responses. Thank you. I’ll be coming back to this post regularly ♥️

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Thank you for sharing, Bunmi! I would say mine are:

-talking to God everyday ( making sure im in honest with how I feel)

-finding ways to love myself everyday

-speaking to myself with kindness, adoration and accountability

-making choices that make me happy

-saying no

-loving my friends well

-being intentional and open to building community

-eating a bomb meal

-facials and pedis help when I need a quick self care treat

-traveling ( with the intention of connecting with others old and new)

-eating foods that give me energy

-making my mom laugh

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I love this! For me it has been:

-Accepting and loving the parts of myself that I’d deemed unlovable and undesirable

-Rather than focusing so much on “healing” younger versions of myself I’ve joined forces with them because their resilience, strength and will to survive is why I made it to 40 year old me

-Stillness and quietude

-🗣️Screaming as loud as I can while riding alone (decompressing at its finest)

-Resting my bare hands and feet in the earth

-Sitting with Mother Nature’s medicine: 🍄, 🐸, 🌱💨, ☕️

-Being conscious of and diligent in managing my anxiety (which comes with truly “knowing” that a lot of the shit that causes my anxiety is deeply rooted in societal constructs and norms that I truly don’t GAF about...which is wild!). So, bringing my Conscious and subconscious mind into alignment so that I can effectively shed the remnants of the BS that has been crowding my psyche.

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This is such a awesome post! I’m inspired by everything I’m reading here. Thank you ladies. Now, here’s mine (this was tough):

Walking in nature

Waking up to see the sunrise from my bedroom windows

Reading a romance novel

Watching shows that have happy endings

Cooking then eating a bomb ass meal

Paying off debt and having the means to pay my bills

Traveling to different areas of the world (locally and internationally)

Buying beautiful things that look good on my body and in my house

Showing my friends and family a good time with gifts and my presence

Dancing to music everyday

Being patient with others

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This is beautiful, here's my list:

-traveling as much as possible

-saying yes more

-forgiving myself for bad decisions

-asking for help

-doing things I'm scared of

-expressing my love

-soaking up the moments

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Love this prompt, babe. For me it’s:

- slowing down + taking my time

- breathing deeply when I get overwhelmed

- leaning into discomfort + not avoiding

- doing the ‘work’ in therapy

- engaging in more moments of physical touch: kissing, hugging, sexing more

- writing to-do lists daily

- communicating my needs

- having a daily routine w/ small steps I can be accountable for

- journaling all the emotions -- my most used containment strategy to manage all the damn feelings, tears, & things

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-Adding depth through focusing on a few challenging but desirable projects.

- Flowers at the bedside

- increasing my perfume collection

- creating more moments of pleasure

- being honest about my needs in the moment even if changes happen in 24 hours, 24 days, or 24 minutes.

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